WELL. to me it depends on the fandom and POV character i'm writing. frex, i use much different terms if i'm writing for Pride and Prejudice than i do if i'm writing for XF.
breasts are pretty much breasts always because i don't like any of the slang terms. unless i'm purposely being more, um, bawdy? in the rare instance i'm writing from a male POV, i tend to use 'dick' or 'hard on' but in general i prefer to use 'penis' or 'cock'. (although i know someone who is really put off by writers using 'cock' because she is a bird enthusiast and it just makes her think of roosters.)
i like to be more specific with female genitalia and use the proper terms: mons, clitoris, labia, etc. but i do enjoy using the word 'cunt' because i think it's sexy and powerful. 'slit' is just what? 'pussy' i hate but i did use it once when i was consciously trying to write like another author. 'entrance' is weird and makes me think of doors, but the anatomical term 'vestibule' is really no better.
'wet' is my preferred term because although 'moist' is really the most accurate description for a vagina, i don't really like it. sometimes 'damp'. 'succulent' and 'juicy' are good if i'm writing from a male POV.
i hate the typical romance novel euphemisms like 'manhood', ugh, unless i'm trying to be funny or deliberately imitating that style. but that's enough to throw me out of something i'm reading. in general, though, i like that synonyms abound. there are words that just work in a given context and you don't necessarily know what they'll be until you try them.
it's very telling that there are so many ways to refer to genitals -- i think it's a case of necessity requiring invention because for so long, and even now in some respects, it simply wasn't acceptable to use the correct terms for those parts of the body. i mean, there aren't multiple ways to say 'arm' or 'leg' and that's because we've only needed the one term. lexical creativity has only been necessary for the parts that are secret or forbidden.
Re: Word Choices in Smut
breasts are pretty much breasts always because i don't like any of the slang terms. unless i'm purposely being more, um, bawdy? in the rare instance i'm writing from a male POV, i tend to use 'dick' or 'hard on' but in general i prefer to use 'penis' or 'cock'. (although i know someone who is really put off by writers using 'cock' because she is a bird enthusiast and it just makes her think of roosters.)
i like to be more specific with female genitalia and use the proper terms: mons, clitoris, labia, etc. but i do enjoy using the word 'cunt' because i think it's sexy and powerful. 'slit' is just what? 'pussy' i hate but i did use it once when i was consciously trying to write like another author. 'entrance' is weird and makes me think of doors, but the anatomical term 'vestibule' is really no better.
'wet' is my preferred term because although 'moist' is really the most accurate description for a vagina, i don't really like it. sometimes 'damp'. 'succulent' and 'juicy' are good if i'm writing from a male POV.
i hate the typical romance novel euphemisms like 'manhood', ugh, unless i'm trying to be funny or deliberately imitating that style. but that's enough to throw me out of something i'm reading. in general, though, i like that synonyms abound. there are words that just work in a given context and you don't necessarily know what they'll be until you try them.
it's very telling that there are so many ways to refer to genitals -- i think it's a case of necessity requiring invention because for so long, and even now in some respects, it simply wasn't acceptable to use the correct terms for those parts of the body. i mean, there aren't multiple ways to say 'arm' or 'leg' and that's because we've only needed the one term. lexical creativity has only been necessary for the parts that are secret or forbidden.
in short: words. i love 'em.