But I feel like few (if any, I don't know) women think of other women's clits as pearls or vaginas as blossoming flowers.
I absolutely agree with you, and yet my brain just went, "...challenge accepted." I started something last night that wandered off from my original plan and suddenly the ladies were sharing smutty romance novels, which seems like a workable set up. Whether I'd have the nerve to post it is another story.
But, yeah, like you, I will use the word that seems right, even if it's not a word I like. And sometimes using it even gets me to change my mind. I used to dislike the kind of squishy sound of pussy, but there's a male character I like who would definitely use it (okay, fine: it's Bobby Ewing), so I started to see its appeal through his eyes, and now I don't have such a knee-jerk DNW reaction to it, although I still have some trouble thinking of a femslash pairing or context I'd use it with. Kind of silly considering his wife is the common element in my het shipping and my femslash shipping, and if I could see her enjoying his use of it...
I kind of have mixed feelings about not having a go-to word. I love words with distinct feelings and connotations, and I love having to think about word choices, but I am absolutely guilty of worrying so much about how many people dislike a given word that I just give up, or I don't give up, but I don't post the finished product, either. It's especially hard when it's a word I don't like but am using anyway. Anon kink memes are kind of a blessing that way -- no one knows who you are, so the risk is easier to take; you don't have to worry about people remembering your name and forever thinking, nope, not reading anything by them, they use that word I hate.
Re: Word Choices in Smut
I absolutely agree with you, and yet my brain just went, "...challenge accepted." I started something last night that wandered off from my original plan and suddenly the ladies were sharing smutty romance novels, which seems like a workable set up. Whether I'd have the nerve to post it is another story.
But, yeah, like you, I will use the word that seems right, even if it's not a word I like. And sometimes using it even gets me to change my mind. I used to dislike the kind of squishy sound of pussy, but there's a male character I like who would definitely use it (okay, fine: it's Bobby Ewing), so I started to see its appeal through his eyes, and now I don't have such a knee-jerk DNW reaction to it, although I still have some trouble thinking of a femslash pairing or context I'd use it with. Kind of silly considering his wife is the common element in my het shipping and my femslash shipping, and if I could see her enjoying his use of it...
I kind of have mixed feelings about not having a go-to word. I love words with distinct feelings and connotations, and I love having to think about word choices, but I am absolutely guilty of worrying so much about how many people dislike a given word that I just give up, or I don't give up, but I don't post the finished product, either. It's especially hard when it's a word I don't like but am using anyway. Anon kink memes are kind of a blessing that way -- no one knows who you are, so the risk is easier to take; you don't have to worry about people remembering your name and forever thinking, nope, not reading anything by them, they use that word I hate.