Where's my lesbian porn guide?

[amaresu]

Written for the prompt: Where Is All My Hot Lesbian Porn?



I can, without much effort, find a half dozen essays on writing gay male sex. Without hitting Google. I can't say the same for lesbian sex. Why is that?

We live in a society where cosmetic surgery for female genitals exists. We live in a society where despite knowing that the vast majority of women can't orgasm through penetration alone women still feel like failures for not orgasming through penetration alone. I've personally talked to people who didn't realize that their urethra and vagina were different things. How many women actually know that their vagina isn't their vulva? What about the labia and the clitoris? In a society that tries to pretend that female sexuality doesn't exist is it any surprise that some of us might need primers on just how lesbian sex works?

Of the people who would be willing to write lesbian porn how many of them know what the vulva looks like? How many have looked at their own? How many know what other people's look like? How about shaving? Why do women do it and just how popular is it? What about the G-Spot? Fingers, tongue, both? Are teeth a good thing? When do you bring toys into it? I could go on and on about the things that it would be nice to have people actually talk about when it comes to this subject.

I can write about oral sex for men, but I wouldn't have the first clue where to start for women. And that's really sad. I think the basic assumption is that we are women (most of us anyway) and thus should know these things, but we don't. Not all of us. And where exactly are we supposed to learn? Google really isn't a whole lot of help there.

So, really, help a girl out. Tell me how to write this stuff.

Comments

[cleo]

I think a discussion on the difference between real sex and fic sex is one that I'd very much like to see. I'd say that most femslash authors who are women are writing about the kind of sex they want to have - the unbridled, unplanned, easy, passionate kind. Who wants to read about Alex Cabbot and Olivia Benson penciling in sex between a long work day and loads of casework. Sex that's probably going to be frustratingly difficult due to the amount of stress both women are under all the time (I don't know about most people, but achieving any kind of release while stressed is impossible for me). Instead, I'd rather read about them banging in the bathroom and getting off fast and easy because they lust for one another all day. (I don't lust for anyone all day, not even my super-hot fiancé. I've got too much to do!)

This. I would love to see a big meta explosion discussion on this come up. Maybe I'll put down my thoughts in my journal. But you've really hit the nail on the head here, I think. It's the sex you want to have sometimes or at least the sex you want to read about/imagine. Total realism can ruin the narrative, and it's a combination of good writing and full immersion in just how hot the scene is (or how emotional or how tense, etc) that really allows us to put aside how some of it just might not work in the real world.

(and on a personal note...substitute Patrice LaRue or Liz Donnelly for Olivia for me and...yeah. Lol. )