Where's my lesbian porn guide?
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fem_thoughtsWritten for the prompt: Where Is All My Hot Lesbian Porn?
I can, without much effort, find a half dozen essays on writing gay male sex. Without hitting Google. I can't say the same for lesbian sex. Why is that?
We live in a society where cosmetic surgery for female genitals exists. We live in a society where despite knowing that the vast majority of women can't orgasm through penetration alone women still feel like failures for not orgasming through penetration alone. I've personally talked to people who didn't realize that their urethra and vagina were different things. How many women actually know that their vagina isn't their vulva? What about the labia and the clitoris? In a society that tries to pretend that female sexuality doesn't exist is it any surprise that some of us might need primers on just how lesbian sex works?
Of the people who would be willing to write lesbian porn how many of them know what the vulva looks like? How many have looked at their own? How many know what other people's look like? How about shaving? Why do women do it and just how popular is it? What about the G-Spot? Fingers, tongue, both? Are teeth a good thing? When do you bring toys into it? I could go on and on about the things that it would be nice to have people actually talk about when it comes to this subject.
I can write about oral sex for men, but I wouldn't have the first clue where to start for women. And that's really sad. I think the basic assumption is that we are women (most of us anyway) and thus should know these things, but we don't. Not all of us. And where exactly are we supposed to learn? Google really isn't a whole lot of help there.
So, really, help a girl out. Tell me how to write this stuff.
I can, without much effort, find a half dozen essays on writing gay male sex. Without hitting Google. I can't say the same for lesbian sex. Why is that?
We live in a society where cosmetic surgery for female genitals exists. We live in a society where despite knowing that the vast majority of women can't orgasm through penetration alone women still feel like failures for not orgasming through penetration alone. I've personally talked to people who didn't realize that their urethra and vagina were different things. How many women actually know that their vagina isn't their vulva? What about the labia and the clitoris? In a society that tries to pretend that female sexuality doesn't exist is it any surprise that some of us might need primers on just how lesbian sex works?
Of the people who would be willing to write lesbian porn how many of them know what the vulva looks like? How many have looked at their own? How many know what other people's look like? How about shaving? Why do women do it and just how popular is it? What about the G-Spot? Fingers, tongue, both? Are teeth a good thing? When do you bring toys into it? I could go on and on about the things that it would be nice to have people actually talk about when it comes to this subject.
I can write about oral sex for men, but I wouldn't have the first clue where to start for women. And that's really sad. I think the basic assumption is that we are women (most of us anyway) and thus should know these things, but we don't. Not all of us. And where exactly are we supposed to learn? Google really isn't a whole lot of help there.
So, really, help a girl out. Tell me how to write this stuff.
Re: Warning: Incoming TL;DR, TMI, and NSFW descriptions of female sex acts
Date: 2010-05-02 04:36 pm (UTC)The thing is, even for my most explicit sex scenes, I really don't know if I need to describe exactly what is being done and how it's happening, or what it looks like down there. It's not about being coy, just my porn is very mentally-situated, so I'm more concerned with the thoughts and feelings of the characters as this happens, and not so much with the mechanical stuff, as long as I'm not doing describing something that's physically impossible.
That's how I feel when I write explicit scenes as well, and those are the types of scenes I like to read best. Sometimes, depending upon the perspective in which I'm writing, I feel like it's okay to push the physically impossibly just a little bit if it works for the scene. But overall, bare mechanics tend to be a bit of a turn off for me, so there's definitely a personal preference thing there.
And because there really is no universal for every woman, that's something to keep in mind. Get to know your character...what does she really like, what works for her, etc. And I find that certain canonical character traits lead me to certain assumptions about what a character might like or like to do, what might work for her. I mean, I'm not talking "well, Character A looks butch, so she obviously gets off on fucking girls with a strap on," but more just watching characters react to things, their movements, facial expressions, their little habits, etc.
Re: Warning: Incoming TL;DR, TMI, and NSFW descriptions of female sex acts
Date: 2010-05-03 06:28 am (UTC)Yeah, I know what you mean, I think, though I tend to be in more general terms. Like character A would probably be more comfortable touching than being touched, or character B would only enjoy sex if she were in complete control of how and where she was touched. It's more about particular attitudes towards sex, and how they behave in general, then about particular acts that they like, with maybe the exception of possible kinks/squicks or a little bit of sex trivia based on their canon.